One year down, a lifetime to go…
My one year anniversary is this week and as I call the bakery I used a year ago to see if they will ship the top tier of my wedding cake to the South, I reflect on this really crazy first year of marriage.
In addition to the usual reflections of, “I can’t believe it was a year ago, today” or “Man, that really was the greatest day of my life,” I will let you in on some things I learned as a newly-wed, in bullet-form of course as all lazy bloggers do.
‚Ä¢ Biggest pet peeve while I was engaged: When people asked, “Are you so excited to get married?” to which I wish I could have responded, “Really? Why would you ask that? Do I seem like I’m getting dragged into this against my will? Are you excited for a free, crazy expensive dinner and open bar?”
‚Ä¢ Biggest pet peeve after the wedding: When people asked, “How are you liking married life?” to which I wish I could have responded, “Meh – not what I expected. Totally didn’t know he was like that. I’m sorta reconsidering” just to see their reaction.
‚Ä¢ Second biggest pet peeve after the wedding: When people asked, “So are you going to have kids right away or do you think you’ll wait?” to which I wish I could have responded, “Not really any of your business but while you bring the subject up, would you mind if we started practicing, right here, right now?” (wink, wink)
‚Ä¢ Most awesome part about being married: Knowing without a shadow of a doubt that you have each other’s back. Knowing that we will do anything to make each other happy because if we’re happy individually, we’re happy together.
‚Ä¢ Second most awesome part about being married: Nesting. I love making our apartment our home. Making our place a complete reflection of who we are and feeling completely comfortable in our nest.
‚Ä¢ The worst part about being married: Changing your name legally – don’t get me wrong, I started going by my married name almost right away but its seriously not a fun process to change your name legally and I still haven’t even completed that process.
‚Ä¢ The real worst part about being married: The snoring.
‚Ä¢ The single item that has so far saved our marriage: TiVo. How else would I get to watch my trashy TV? And Lord knows there’s only so much History channel I can take!
‚Ä¢ On a related note- TV show best watched with my husband: The Marriage Ref – only because its funny when they address a fight that we often have. This is closely followed by Jersey Shore – and that’s only because who doesn’t love the Joisy Shoa?
‚Ä¢ The thing that’s changed the most since marriage: fighting. We fight fairer now and our fights now don’t end with some dramatic “Ronnie vs. Sammi” ultimatum – OKthey never did but you know what I mean.
So, that’s my 1st year review for those of you entering newly-wedded bliss. That’s what you have to look forward to. I can’t wait to see this list again in 5, 10, 15 years and see how it changes as we get older in our relationship. I hope my insights were helpful to you or at the very least, entertaining.